Top Tips from Amazing Couples on How to Have a Successful Relationship

Couples from all walks of life completed our survey, we wanted to make sure we heard back from as many types of couples as we could. 

Here are some key statistics from our survey:

We had a good range of ages completing our survey, the most common was those in the age group 25-34 which made up just shy of 31% but we also had good representation from 18-24 year olds, 35-44 year olds and 45-54 year olds.

Most of our survey respondents were female, making up 73%. We did also receive responses from men as well as gender fluid, non-binary and trans.

We purposefully went looking people in long term relationships and that is what we got with over 65% of people having been in their relationship for 5 years or more. With less than 15% of those taking part being in their relationship for less than one year meaning more than 85% of the responses have come from long term relationships.

And now for the best part, here are some of the hints, tips and insights that came back from our couples. We hope you enjoy reading these and find them useful. All of the following responses have come from the people who completed our survey.

1. Our love and trust, as well as our deliberate choice to be our best selves for our own benefit and the benefit of our relationship. our willingness to communicate openly and without fear of judgment or ridicule. we are a safe place for one another.
2. Shared values, open communication, deep mutual respect
3. We communicate a lot and frequently. We try to emphasise and we forgive. We try to respect each other and out individual needs.
4. Honesty. Trust. Love and lots of laughter.
5. Love, respect, caring and trust. Shared interests too.
6. No drama. We listen to each other. We trust each other. We help each other.
7. Being silly together
8. Being best friends
9. Discussing any issues that may be niggling rather than letting them grow.
10. Communication, Friendship, Kindness, Compromise

1. Talk about the things that weigh on you. If you are bothered by something, tell your partner. Don’t just let it fester. Try to assume the best of one another, don’t fall into the trap of trying to assign blame or motive that isn’t there. If your partner brings up something you did or didn’t say or do, listen first. Don’t just jump to defending yourself. Don’t make them feel like they can’t tell you how they feel, and don’t allow anyone else to make you feel ashamed or afraid to say how you feel either. Be each other’s safe place, but also remember that you are each responsible for your own wellbeing. You can’t depend on another person to determine your happiness. It’s unhealthy for you and unfair to them. Be KIND, be HONEST, and don’t settle for a relationship that you’re lukewarm about.
2. Make sure you are friends underneath the passion.
3. Talk to each other. Don't assume your partner knows what your thinking or feeling all of the time. Also don't assume what your partner is thinking or feeling
   
4. Respect each other, do not take each other for granted and share interests.
5. Don’t take life too seriously and understand that people aren’t perfect. Your happiness comes from your mind, it isn’t someone else’s responsibility to MAKE you happy.
6. Talk about everything. No matter how things may be, good or bad, keep conversation going.
7. Don't allow other peoples judgements to affect your relationship.
8. Listen but also make sure you’re listened to. Every time you bicker, ask yourself if it’s really important enough to risk losing that person
9. Give it time there can be misunderstandings at the start when you are getting to know each other!
10. Be truthful, be patient (as there will be times you may have to give a little grace to strike a happy medium) and respect each other

1. Acceptance
2. Emotional fulfilment, feelings of being loved, appreciated, important. knowing that my partner and i have chosen to journey through life together and grow as individuals as well as a couple.
3. Companionship, love, a teammate in life
4. Someone to share the journey with. Someone tip help me gain perspective and help ground me. Mutual support and comfort. Someone to laugh and joke with.
5. Someone who brings out the best in you whilst also accepting you for who you are, flaws and all
6. Having a Family together and marriage
7. Support. Strength. Love. Protection. Honesty. Great sex
8. Friendship, respect and reliability.
9. Someone to share life with. Someone to better me. Someone to make everything else seem unimportant
10. To be one half of a whole yet to still have my own individuality and compliment each other when we are together